The OB at the ᴄʟɪɴɪᴄ ɪᴍᴍᴇᴅɪᴀᴛᴇʟʏ ʀᴇᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴅ ʜᴇʀ ᴛᴇʀᴍɪɴᴀᴛɪɴɢ her pregnancy. She asked me what I thought. I dropped immediately into what I call “great grandma wisdom”, talking her through what her great ᴄᴀᴠᴇ ɢʀᴀɴᴅᴍᴀ would have done. There would have been no high technological machine scanning her belly to tell her of this fate. She would have still enjoyed the feeling of LIFE moving inside of her. She would have woken before the ᴘᴀssɪɴɢ of 10 moons and realized that her baby was on her way too early.
She would have been sᴜʀʀᴏᴜɴᴅᴇᴅ by her aunties, sisters & other Fᴇᴍᴀʟᴇs as they didn’t Fᴇᴀʀ walking into what is most guaranteed part of ʟɪFᴇ … ᴅᴇᴀᴛʜ. Sᴏ ɪɴsᴛᴇᴀᴅ ᴏf fᴀʟʟɪɴɢ ɪɴᴛᴏ fᴇᴀʀ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴇ sᴛʀᴏɴɢ ʀᴇᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇɴᴅᴀᴛɪᴏɴ from the OB, she trusted her intuition, she let her baby ᴘᴀss on her own time & birthed her into the same place that she originally intended… at home.
Before the start of the waves that would bring her here, she came across an article in Cafemom where a mom in a sɪᴍɪʟᴀʀ sɪᴛᴜᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ᴛᴀʟᴋᴇᴅ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ᴘʀᴇsᴇʀᴠɪɴɢ ʜᴇʀ ʙᴀʙʏ ɪɴ sᴀʟɪɴᴇ ᴡᴀᴛᴇʀ ᴛᴏ ᴍɪᴍɪᴄ ᴛʜᴇ ᴀᴍɴɪᴏᴛɪᴄ Fʟᴜɪᴅ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʙᴀʙʏ ʜᴀᴅ ᴊᴜsᴛ ᴄᴏᴍᴇ Fʀᴏᴍ. Tʜᴇ ᴘʀᴏᴄᴇss ᴏF ʜᴇʀ ʟɪᴛᴛʟᴇ ʙᴏᴅʏ ᴅᴇᴄᴀʏɪɴɢ ᴡᴀs ʜᴀʟᴛᴇᴅ ᴀɴᴅ ᴏᴠᴇʀ ᴛɪᴍᴇ, ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴄʜᴀɴɢɪɴɢ the water every 6-8 hours, they were able to see their baby unfold… the redness of the skin, the pealing skin, all stopped. She looked through these mama’s pictures and knew it was right for their experience.
It was something I had never heard of in my 18 years of birth work, when she sent me her daughters pictures, I couldn’t stop looking at how beautiful she was. My eyes were filled with tears. What an amazing option for families who want more time with their babies. What an incredible way to be given their own time to say goodbye. And what an incredible gift to share with you all to know that this is an option.”