People online were shocked to read one father’s explanation of his daughter’s reaction to some “stupid teenage ‘he said she said’ nonsense.”
Parenting is far from easy, especially when the child is in the troublesome teenage years.
Yet, as each parent wants the best for their children, they sometimes need to be strict and teach them a valuable lesson the hard way.
This was, at least, the decision of one father, in order to teach his daughter some manners.
Yet, his punishment sparked debate online.
Now, let’s start from the very beginning.
The father wrote a post on the incident, that he later deleted, and it read:
“My ex-wife and I have a 16-year-old daughter together of which I have full custody (she has moved on with her new family)… My daughter recently got in trouble at school for making fun of a student that lost her hair from cancer treatment. Including pulling off her wig.
Apparently there is some pre-existing bad blood between the two of them, but I don’t think that even begins to excuse her behavior.”
The man went on to explain that his daughter was seeing the other girl’s ex-boyfriend, and this caused things to get heated between the two, and added:
“At some point the other girl mentioned how my daughter’s boyfriend was just using her for sex (this was actually a big shock to me as I had no idea she was sexually active) and called my daughter a sl*t. That’s what escalated the situation and resulted in the wig incident. Supposedly they have been arguing in class ever since my daughter started dating the guy in question. Basically just stupid teenage ‘he said she said’ nonsense.”
Yet, the man continued to explain that he felt the need to teach his daughter a lesson so he gave her two options, with the first being:
“I will throw away every single piece of electronics she owns and never buy her another again (this was just to coerce her into choosing option 2).”
The second option was :
“She will go to the hairdresser and get a cue ball haircut. As in, a completely shaved head, as bald as the hairdresser can do.”
The girl chose option 2, so she was forced to go to school bald and was not permitted to wear a wig.
The father said:
“Everyone thinks I went way overboard. Her mother went ballistic at me saying it will make her the target of bullying (kind of the point, teach her some compassion).”
Many people online agreed with the mother, claiming that this is not a fitting punishment for his daughter’s lack of empathy.
One person wrote:
“Your daughter is a bully because you are a bully. I seriously doubt this is the first time you used abuse and humiliation to ‘teach her a lesson.’”
“There’s a term for what you did. It’s called child abuse. Taking away her electronics would have been an appropriate punishment. Grounding her would have been an appropriate punishment. Disrespecting her right to bodily autonomy and humiliating her is not an appropriate punishment. She’s unlikely to learn from it and if anything it risks perpetuating a cycle of bullying.”
A third person wrote:
“That is a form of abuse. There are other ways to discipline her. Humiliation is never the way to handle a problem with children. Before anyone asks, yes I have children, five in fact.”
Another one continued:
“Yes. Poor role model. Violence and abuse only begets more. So many other ways to have positive result.”
However, a lot of people agreed with the man instead.
One person said:
“I support your decision completely. You’re her parent so you have every right to do this, it’s not abusive, it’s real life. If she’s comfortable attacking someone for something they have no choice over she needs to see how it feels.”
“This is an appropriate punishment for that behavior that will hopefully result in one child being compassionate and thinking empathetically before they start bullying people.”
A third wrote:
“She will see what kind of impact actions like hers have on the victim and that will teach her a very important lesson.”
Many believe the dad made the right choice.
Some other user said:
“Too bad she didn’t learn compassion earlier. Hopefully this lesson works.”
“Good for the dad. Obviously he did not teach her the bullying. Disciplined for bad behavior is not being a bad parent. I applaud him for taking responsibility as parent.”
So, what do you think?
Let us know in the comments!