Parenting is fun and exciting, but it’s also stressful and exhausting. Ultimately, becoming a parent is one of the most life-changing experiences a person can go through.
The couple’s love story began in 2003, when they met while both working at Target. After two and a half years of dating, Adam proposed on Christmas Eve, and he and Danielle were married six months later. “Man, we were so young!” Danielle wrote on their family blog about when they said “I do.” The couple sᴛʀᴜɢɢʟᴇᴅ to have a baby for years and their prayers were answered when their daughter Blayke was born.
Four years later, in an attempt to give Blayke a sibling, Danielle became ᴘʀᴇɢɴᴀɴᴛ with not one, but five babies. The five babies, born April 8, were ᴄᴏɴᴄᴇɪᴠᴇd using ɪɴᴛʀᴀᴜᴛᴇʀɪɴᴇ ɪɴsᴇᴍɪɴᴀᴛɪᴏɴ after a struggle with ɪɴғᴇʀᴛɪʟɪᴛʏ. Dᴏᴄᴛᴏʀs advised the couple to ᴀʙᴏʀᴛ one or more of the ғᴇᴛᴜsᴇs, but the couple decided not to because of their religious beliefs. Busby said he’s read negative comments from people who disagree with their decision to keep all the babies, but he focuses on the positive comments. He said:” Especially now, looking at all the babies and how perfect they are . How could we have chosen?”
Although he says things can get hectic – especially when all five kids are screaming in the middle of the night – Busby says his love for his daughters keeps him focused. . Even her daughter, Blayke, is eager to help, says Busby. All of these allow the pairing to become a routine. He said: “Adding Ava to the mix has been an adjustment. It’s crazy how one kid makes a difference. We each fed the four kids as usual and we still have one left. We’re done with rock-paper-scissors.”
In April, the Busby family transformed from a family of three to a family of eight overnight. The Busby quints are the first set of all-Gɪʀʟ quintuplets in the US, and the first globally since 1969. Now, this history-making brood is turning ᴛᴇʀʀɪʙʟᴇ two!
Although the two have been parents for almost a decade, one thing hasn’t changed: their relationship with each other is first and foremost. “We got great advice from our mentors,” says Adam. “Obviously, my relationship with her is the most important in the house. And so if it doesn’t work out, You know, everything in the house is affected. And we can see that whenever we’re arguing or you’re feeling disconnected. With the stress and everything going, the kids. See it and the kids feel it. And it feels like the house is starting to get out of control. So that’s just the most important relationship in the house — ours. And we focus on that and they’re happier for it.”
With a house full of young Gɪʀʟs growing up, all with different personalities and points of view, there is plenty of conversation in the Busby house. And for Danielle, maintaining a healthy line of communication with Adam was the single most important factor in their strong and happy marriage. She said: “Communication is probably the biggest key, and learning to adjust what’s not working. We enjoy doing stuff together and going on dates, but it can get overshadowed really quickly.”
